Thursday, February 04, 2016

Egymilliárd nő ébredése (One Billion Rising) 2016

„Egymilliárd nő bántalmazása gyalázat, egymilliárd nő tánca forradalom” (Eve Ensler)

Meghívó

Egymilliárd nő ébredése (One Billion Rising) 2016, Budapest – új forradalom a nők és lányok elleni erőszak ellen

Szeretettel meghívjuk a Magyar Női Érdekérvényesítő Szövetség, a NANE Egyesület és a Nőkért Egyesület közös rendezésében tartandó eseményre!

Időpont: 2016. február 14. vasárnap, délután 3.
Helyszín: Bálint Ház. Budapest, VI. Révay u. 16.

Idén negyedik alkalommal kerül megrendezésre az Egymilliárd nő ébredése (One Billion Rising) világméretű kampány. Az esemény a nők és lányok elleni erőszakkal szembeni fellépésért mozgósít a tánc és a művészet erejével, jótékony kollektív energiák felszabadításával. Minden évben, így idén is, eltáncoljuk a Törd szét a láncot! (Break the Chain!) dalra koreografált figyelemfelhívó táncot. A tánc után bemutatásra kerül a NANE Egyesület „Kérsz teát?!” című darabja. A rendhagyó, egyetemista fiataloknak készült színházi előadást Bánki Gergely és Sipos Vera írta és rendezte, a NANE Egyesület felkérésére és szakértői támogatásával. Az előadást a színészekkel és szakértőkkel folytatott beszélgetés követi, melyet Bombera Krisztina, a mozgalom önkéntese vezet.  

14.30  Érkezés, információs stand
15-15.10 Megnyitó
15.10-15.20 Közös tánc
15.20-15.30 Terem átrendezése
15.30-16.15. Kérsz teát?! színházi előadás
16.15-17.00 Vezetett beszélgetés. Moderál: Bombera Krisztina


A programra a belépés ingyenes. A darab alatt kisgyermekek számára az Éden Játszóház ingyen áll rendelkezésre. 130 fő feletti létszám esetén csak állóhelyet tudunk biztosítani a karzaton.

Magyarországon milliós nagyságrendű a nők elleni erőszak áldozatainak száma. Az EU Alapjogi Ügynökségének reprezentatív kutatása szerint a 15 éves koruk óta a fizikai és/vagy szexuális erőszak valamely formájának áldozatává vált nők aránya a 18–74 éves korosztályban 28%. Ez a 2011-es népszámlálás adataiból kiindulva több mint 1 millió 124 ezer magyar nőt jelent. 

Mi ezért táncolunk, ezért állunk ki magunkért és másokért.
Érezd te is a táncból eredő erőt és energiát! Csatlakozz az összes kontinenshez!

#rise4revolution
#Budapest

Tuesday, February 02, 2016

One Billion Rising Budapest 2016

One Billion Rising Hungary 2016 Campaign

Across Hungary the One Billion Rising campaign escalates its call for the end of violence against women. Fundamentally the movement is a call for change within communities--structural, systemic, long term change. It makes these demands for change by raising awareness about domestic and sexual violence and challenges us to find the right ways to respond.

The One Billion Rising movement encourages creative and artistic expressions so a wide variety of people can enter into the conversation and work toward solutions in our communities. There are rational ways to respond to violence, but often we find rational solutions after we develop our moral courage through artistic play. Thus we once again take part in the worldwide dance phenomenon, “Break the Chain.” This year Hungary is proud to participate in the global movement by presenting an original theater piece, “Kérsz teát?”  (May I Offer You a Tea?), written and performed by Bánki Gergely and Sipos Vera. “Kérsz teát?” explores the idea of consent and provides a rich theater experience for audience members. It will be followed by a discussion about how we understand consent in own relationships.

“Kersz Teat” is a powerful tool to understand a complex, sensitive issue. Audience members walk away from the event with an awareness that may radically change the way they think about and engage in violence-free relationships. The actors, who created the play in collaboration with NANE, hope to use the piece in high schools and colleges.  We especially invite high school teachers and university staff who want to get a first-hand experience of the play before introducing it to their communities.  Introducing a discussion about violence-free relationships to our next generation can dramatically impact the future of Hungary and the safety of its women.

The One Billion Rising Hungary 2016 campaign is thrilled to dance and showcase “Kérsz teát?” The movement invites artistic energy to create new ways of responding to the problem of violence against women.  We look forward to how this energy will produce new ways of responding to those most in need in our community.


What is One Billion Rising? http://www.onebillionrising.org/
Learn the "Break the Chain" dance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mRU1xmBwUeA

#rise4revolution
#Budapest

Monday, February 01, 2016

Language Lessons




There's lots of literature about the loss of innocence, because we all share in that loss and literature is about what we share. Here's a poem by Alexandra Teague, a San Franciscan, in which a child's awakening to the alphabet coincides with another awakening: the unsettling knowledge that all of us don't see things in the same way. 

Language Lessons 

The carpet in the kindergarten room
was alphabet blocks; all of us fidgeting
on bright, primary letters. On the shelf
sat that week's inflatable sound. The th
was shaped like a tooth. We sang
about brushing up and down, practiced
exhaling while touching our tongues
to our teeth. Next week, a puffy U
like an upside-down umbrella; the rest
of the alphabet deflated. Some days,
we saw parents through the windows
to the hallway sky. Look, a fat lady,
a boy beside me giggled. Until then
I'd only known my mother as beautiful.

Sunday, January 31, 2016

Parent Child Interview


I asked Izabella and Leo a series of questions that were part of a Facebook meme. Here is the result:

Izabella, 7 (almost 8)

1. What is something I always say to you? I love you.
2. What makes me happy? clowns
3. What makes me sad? Leo hitting me.
4. How do I make you laugh? putting on my clown costume or saying a funny joke
5. What was I like when I was a child? like a clown
6. How old am I? 41
7. How tall am I? 228 cm
8. What is my favorite thing to do? go shopping
9. What do I do when you're not around? go shopping
10. What am I really good at? funniness or shouting at Leo
11. What is something I'm not good at? bicycling
12. What do I do for a job? write books
13. What is my favorite food? rice casserole
14. What do you enjoy doing with me? cuddle

Leo (6 ½)

1. What is something I always say to you? Isn’t it a beautiful day? Or, I love you.
2. What makes me happy? When I am really nice and not fussing and I don’t eat with my hands
3. What makes me sad? If I hit you or I am angry or I hate you or say I don’t love you
4. How do I make you laugh? Saying funny jokes and tickling me
5. What was I like when I was a child? nice
6. How old am I? 42
7. How tall am I? How would I know?
8. What is my favorite thing to do? go outside and have fresh air, cuddle
9. What do I do when you're not around? go shopping, clean the house
10. What am I really good at? Cleaning the house, loving people, being nice, being cute
11. What is something I'm not good at? Lego
12. What do I do for a job? Write a book and take care of us and I think you said you are a teacher
13. What is my favorite food? French fries
14. What do you enjoy doing with me? Cuddling, go shopping

Iza was then inspired to write her own original interview questions for me:

1.Mia kedvenc színed? blue
2.Hány barátod van? 3
3.Hány éves vagy ha 10 évet elveszel? 31
4.Hány éves vagy ha 10 évet hozáadsz? 51
5.Hány gyereked van? 2
6.Hány éves vagy? 41
7.Hányadik osztályban vagy? :)
8.Van 5 almám megetem 2 vásárolok még 2 hány almám van? 5!
9.Mikor születél? November 18, 1974
10.Mia kedvenc éneked? Happy Birthday
11.Mia kedvenc élményed? skydiving with Jason
12.Hol születél? Hutchinson, KS, USA
13.Mia neved? Janet Kay Francesca Kelley
14.Kia kedvenc barátod? Debbie
15.Kika barátaid? Debbie, Akesha, Ashley, Jason
16.Hány éves vagy ha 10+1 évet elveszel? 30
17.Van 6 kutyám 3 kutyám vetem még 1 kutyát hány kutyám van? 9
18.Van 9-3 db gojom kaptam még 6+9 db gojot hány gojom van? 21
19.😀+😄=? Happy!
20.🎁+💖=? Birthday




Thursday, January 28, 2016

a big dose of America

Fries as Destination


Dear Seth,

Meet me in Brussels? Happy to revisit the important work of updating this article with you.

j





Tuesday, January 26, 2016

brilliance


Learned something new today:

The same man, Michael Frayn, wrote "Noises Off" and "Copenhagen." Huh.

http://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/the-sublime-chaos-of-noises-off?mbid=social_twitter

me. circa 1997 or 8.


did photoshop exist? the selfie did not.


Monday, January 25, 2016

Sunday, January 24, 2016

Gender Tales: Pink Tax in Budapest



Hold on, I will get to the Pink Tax.

When my daughter started first grade in Budapest in 2014 there was a steep learning curve for both of us.  My expectations about the first-day experience were not met and I was I was deeply shocked by what I considered to be profoundly misguided traditions inconsiderate of children's needs when entering the care of a new school and a new teacher.

Over time I developed a love-hate relationship with the system. No school is perfect. But those striving toward perfection earn my respect. I worry about a system that doesn't seem self-aware, self-critical, or open to the changing needs of its population. However, it should be noted there is a growing teacher rebellion against the nationwide reforms imposed three years ago. The movement is worth your attention and support. Teachers are revolting and parents are revolting by turning away from the public system to open independent new schools.

Back to my local school and my kids. I think it is fair to say that a public school is a perfect microcosm of its culture. (And this will lead me to the Pink Tax, pinkie-swear.)

My current analysis of Hungary is that at the center of its cultural identity is this word:  Tradition. My theory about America is that its central word is:  Independence. These words function in ways that are fascinating to explore and tease out from the news and the arts. These identity tags function.

At the center of the Hungarian school is the notion of tradition with a capital T.

One example of this is the required sports class and its requisite uniform. I was instructed at the parent's meeting to purchase for my daughter a "torna ruha," white socks, and gym shoes with white soles. I get the gym shoes requirement, as it keeps the floors clean.

My first task was to understand "torna ruha." It translates to "gym clothes." However, in the Hungarian tradition (Tradition), this means the girls wear a leotard and the boys wear gym shorts and a white t-shirt. In a classroom of thirty kids they all strip down to their Star Wars skivvies and put on the gym uniform. Right away this signals the gym class is not a play class but a workout. Physical fitness is another lesson, as rigorous as math or reading. I have theories about this too. Seriously, how effective can that be? I know my husband learned to skip gym classes as soon as possible when growing up in a Hungarian school system. But let me stay focussed on the Pink Tax. We are getting there.

After much discussion about the gender imbalance related to requiring girls to wear body-revealing leotards while boys wear comfortable sports clothes, I dutifully went to the sports store. I had resigned to buy my daughter the leotard as well as the shorts and t-shirt. I would pack both and let her decide what worked best for her.

I found the display for the gym clothes. And there it was: The Pink Tax. The leotard cost 2,999 forint (about 10 dollars), which is not cheap. The shorts and the t-shirt combined cost 2,789.  A lesson in the marketplace before the first day of school: It is expensive to be a girl and have the "right" outfit! Granted, the price was only slightly more for the girl outfit. But there it is. Not only does the Tradition expect her to wear a body-revealing costume, it expects her to pay more for it (for less material).

It still makes my blood boil, roiling with pink bubbles of indignation.

#worldwidepinktax
#ugh
#gendertales
#budapest


FYI: More on the pink tax:  http://time.com/4159973/women-pay-more-everything/